The Power of Vulnerability

 

What is vulnerability to you? Being vulnerable means opening up to someone and risk getting harmed for showing your true colors and openly expressing your feelings and any type of physical or emotional or mental trauma you've been through as a human, sometimes people could abuse the fact that you've opened up to them and use what you've told them and trusted them with against you for their own benefit, that's why you should always be careful who you are vulnerable around because if you're vulnerable and show just a small amount of weakness or pain with the wrong person they many people would most probably back stab you and it could really affect your mental health as a person for a long time and it could also most probably lead to you having trust issues and not trusting anyone easily because you were once vulnerable with someone and they threw you under the bus to benefit of you. In Brené Brown's The Power of Vulnerability TED Talk Brene talks about the power of vulnerability,  scarcity culture, wholehearted living, love, belonging, vulnerability, shame and empathy, common sources of shame, shame triggers, and handeling shame. Firstly we’ll talk Abou the power of vulnerability, Brene explains how people in todays world are lonelier then ever, more obese, and more addicted then ever because they try running as way from the problem then sitting down and talking about it because they’re scared to open up. Secondly, we’ll talk about what Scarcity culture is. Scarcity culture is the tendency we approach towards numbing behaviors which is the result of Scarcity culture. Scarcity culture is when you don’t believe in yourself and you always feel like you aren’t enough and destroys your confidence. Thirdly, wholehearted love is when you start to accept that you are good enough, you are more than enough, and start gaining your confidence. Fourthly, love is something you can’t achieve from anyone if you don’t know how to love yourself first. Belonging, when someone tries too hard to belong they just never fit in because they try to be something they’re not by trying to live to  peoples expectation which will never workout if they try to be someone they’re not. Vulnerability is being able to let your Guard down and open your wings about how you really feel. Shame and empathy, is when someone's insecurity takes over and makes them feel that they aren’t enough. Talking about what you feel shameful is the only way to start a new page with yourself. Common sources of shame, usually it develops from a young age and usually explodes in your adulthood, sources for shame could be school, work, parents, etc…. Shame triggers, is when something that has been glued in your memory since you were a child affects your real world because you were raised with specific expectations and if you don’t do them you are considered a failure. Handling shame is the most important point mentioned by Brene, the only way to let go of shame is to face it, always tell yourself you are always gonna be good enough no matter what. Three things I need to work on myself is I should stop physically playing with people, and I should learn to stop being too loud, and last but not least I need to work on stopping myself from sleeping in classes. In brief, know your self worth because you shouldn’t expect anyone to believe in you, if you can’t even believe in yourself.